“Feminism is not a dirty word. It does not mean you hate men, it does not mean you hate girls who have nice legs and a tan, and it does not mean you are a ‘bitch’ or a ‘dyke’; it means that you believe in equality.” – Kate Nash.
Just some more of my thoughts on what it means to be a feminist.
“feminism has fought no wars. it has killed no opponents. it has set up no concentration camps, starved no enemies, practiced no cruelties. its battles have been for education, for the vote, for better working conditions, for safety on the streets, for childcare, for social welfare, for rape crisis centers, women’s refuges, reforms in the law. if someone says ‘oh i’m not a feminist,’ i ask ‘why, what’s your problem?’” – Facebook/Tumblr post
I think that quote pretty much sums up how I feel about feminism. Women have been fighting for a better life domestically before a more equal life. Because they knew that that was the first step towards equality. They knew that if they are granted education, future generations of girls will be able to formulate their own opinions and question authority. Education is the first step towards equality.
After all, if we were all as bitchy as the media stereotypes us to be, then would we have accomplished so much even though we still have so much to accomplish?
The next time someone asks why you’re a feminist, ask them, why not? And list the reasons why you are, and list the things that feminists have achieved and still have yet to achieve. Like how Amelia Earheart was a pioneer for female pilots. Or how long it took for women to fight for our right to vote. Or how it was in the 1870s when the first woman ran for the nomination for US President. Or how it is statistically proven that educating girls is the first step to raising a family out of poverty and into the middle class. With all of these ideas and accomplishments backing you up, what is there to be ashamed of?
Sure, people will call you a “bitch” and joke about how you probably will need to “get laid” in order to “soften up”. But that only highlights their shortcomings, not yours. Let people call you a “bitch” because there’s nothing to be ashamed of. You are an accomplished and ambitious woman, unwilling to let anything get in the way of you and your dreams. You work hard and your resume and reputation shows that. You are passionate about the ideals you believe in. Those are the characteristics we look for in male leaders anyway. You aren’t a “bitch,” but those people calling you that are merely hypocrites and jealous of your accomplishments.
Like they say on Saturday Night Live, “bitches get things done.”
So if you are afraid of someone calling you a “bitch,” don’t be. Because that only highlights your own accomplishments. I, for one, would rather be called a “bitch” than a “damsel in distress.”
Because being a feminist doesn’t mean you hate men. It doesn’t mean that you are unhygienic. It doesn’t mean that you can’t have motherly feelings. It doesn’t mean that you are lesbian. These stereotypes are all trying to take the conversation away from what feminism truly means: egalitarianism. Don’t forget to say that it’s like civil rights, or human rights, or gay rights, because all of these movements want one thing: equality.